Part 1 of 4: SQ Adolescents, Our Future Leaders (Myths and Facts)
These 4 blogs focus on exploring
adolescents as our future leaders. In
the next few weeks, we will look at “Adolescent Mental Health,” “Adolescent
Friendships,” and “Adolescent Sexuality.”
Besides being an infant, adolescent years
are one of the fastest-changing experiences.
Their brain, physique, emotions, thinking, and social lives are all
changing so fast that both parents and adolescents need extra support to
understand what is going on. They need
honest feedback from adults, not only from their peers, about how they are
doing and what they are doing in light of the greater family, social, cultural
and spiritual context.
Proverbs
16:13
Good
leaders cultivate honest speech; they love advisors who tell them the truth.
Parents serve as good leaders. Parents are not always insisting that they
are right. Good parents are the one who
learns alongside their children. Parents
listen well and speak with wisdom. They
know and accept their adolescents’ strengths and weaknesses. They can build profound and long-lasting
relationships together. They walk
through the peaks and valleys of life.
Parents have the unique advantage of listening and sharing stories of
triumphs and failures. Parents can
dispel the myths and discover the facts together with their children.
Myth #1:
Adolescent years are also called the “rebellious years.”
Fact #1:
Adolescent does not have to be rebellious. Those who do not have proper relationships or
tumultuous times with their significant others may act out and behave
rebelliously. Most adolescents are
surrounded by good relationships that foster cooperation and discipline. They are goal-directed and have a strong
sense of self with confidence.
Myth #2:
Adolescents are teens aged 13 to 19.
Fact #2:
Adolescents’ phenomenon is shaped by the brain, culture, and social
relationships. It is not limited by how
old they are. Psychologically, it can
start as young as when they are encouraged to be independent. Physically, puberty begins as young as 9 or
10 years of age because of the interaction of nutrition and genes. We gain a better understanding by looking at
the children who are thrown into taking care of themselves early on without the
benefits of both parents around.
Adolescent behaviors can extend itself to the advanced age of thirties
or beyond. Just notice those thirty-some
living with their parents who are acting like a spoiled brat or those who are
married acting as if they are still single.
Individuals need to go through emotional independence and gain
responsibilities for themselves and others.
We call this normal process “Separation and Individuation.”
Myth #3:
Adolescents are just kids.
Fact #3:
Adolescents are just as responsible as adults if they are provided with
the appropriate amount of challenges.
Adolescents are just as wise as adults if they are provided with
adequate opportunities to live, make choices, suffer, and struggle
through life issues. These healthy adolescents
are the ones who are physically, emotionally, socially, and spiritually
integrated and in-synced within and without.
Screening for healthy adolescent
development, my teen:
➢ Engages in behavior that
supports a healthy lifestyle, such as eating healthy foods, being active…
➢ Is good at doing a certain
things like music, math, cooking, or making friends.
➢ Has at least one responsible adult in her life who cares and be able to talk to.
➢ Has at least one friend or
a group of friends with whom she is comfortable.
➢ Helps others individually
or by working with a team in a school, a church, or a community.
➢ Can bounce back from
life’s disappointments.
➢ Has a sense of hopefulness
and self-confidence.
➢ Has become more
independent and made more of her own decisions.
Proverbs
16:15
Good-tempered
leaders invigorate lives; they're like spring rain and sunshine.
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